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10 tips how to get over someone

21 Feb 2014

Wondering how to get over an ex? We've all been there. Sometimes you can’t start dating again till you are over an ex, and sometimes dating helps you to get over them! Everyone deals with being newly single differently. Read our top 10 tips on how to get over someone below:

Dating advice: how to get over an ex

  • 1. Get closure
    If you are wondering if he still fancies you, he doesn't. If you have unanswered questions which are running around in your head - get answers. Then move on.
  • 2. Release
    Both verbal and physically will do a world of good. Do a boxing circuit class. You are allowed a cry and good rant to your bestie, just don't make the mistake of your break up being the topic of every night out. Allocate an evening over a glass of wine to get out all the emotions.

  • 3. Learn from your relationship mistakes
    No one is blame less in any break up, take some time for self-reflection.

  • 4. Stop social media stalking
    Block him if need be. Does it matter how quickly his relationship status changes from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship’? Do you really want to be friends? It’s really really really difficult to get over someone when they pop up on facebook every 5 mins.

  • 5. Make a list of the bad things
    Take off the rose coloured glasses and take him off the pedestal. Was he really that great?
  • 6. Delete his number from phone
    No drunk texting, no texts when you are feeling a lonely and down. Throw out stuff that reminds you of him. You can’t get over someone when you have reminders of them everywhere. It’s impossible!

  • 7. Keep busy with new interests
    You spent every night together and now you have all this free time? Great. Don't stay in a think about the good times you once had, get out and do stuff you've been meaning to do for ages. Take up that yoga class, try out some new restaurants with your mates, learn Spanish. Being single means you can do whatever you want, whenever you want. Embrace that. Embrace being single. When you do start dating at least you will have plenty of interesting conversation topics.

  • 8. Hang out with those who love you
    OH MY GOD I AM GOING TO DIE ALONE? Will anyone ever love me again? Course they will. In fact there are people who love you right now. Spend time with your family and friends and remind yourself why you are so damn lovable.

  • 9. YOU YOU YOU
    Focus on yourself. Pamper, eat well - feel good inside and out. It’s a cliché, but when you love yourself you can love someone new. Relationships are great, but enjoy being single by focusing on yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Being single can be great, I have been happily single for years at a time! I always believe it is better to be single than in the wrong relationship.

  • 10. Start meeting new people
    When you are ready to start dating, ease yourself back in. Smile at the guy who serves you your morning coffee. Tip your bar tender with a compliment. Get a bunch of single ladies together (friends, colleagues, whatever!) and attend some singles nights. Flirting is a confidence boost, so you need to put yourself out there in situations where you can flirt and meet men. You don’t have to be ready for anything serious, just enjoy it and network. Nothing boosts the confidence more than leaving a singles night smiling, knowing you will get a few matches the next day. And who knows where they might lead?

I hope you’ve enjoyed my tips on how to get over someone. Got some ideas of your own? Tweet me @SpeedDater_UK

Till next time…


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