SpeedDater
Dating ideas
21 Dec 2021

How to Invite Your Date to Celebrate Christmas Together and How to Know That It’s the Right Time in Your Relationship

Every relationship progresses at a different pace. Some hit the ground running, and in a matter of weeks, couples are thinking about tying the knot. Others are slightly slower and require a complete understanding that’s mutual when it comes to taking the next step. However, at some point, there comes a time when you feel as though you want to spend more time together. With Christmas on the horizon, how can you tell that it’s the right time to spend time together? Finding the right moment is especially important. Time it wrong, and you’ll leave your partner with no option than to head for the hills faster than Roadrunner. Get it right, and you’ll be able to celebrate Christmas together feeling like the proper couple that you are. So, we’re going to help you find the right time to ask and then show you how to celebrate together. How to Identify the Right Time Timing is everything when it comes to relationships. However, if you want to avoid spending Christmas alone, then you might want to ask your partner if they want to celebrate it with you, but what signs should you be looking for? They’ve Dropped Some Subtle Hints - Subtle hints are sometimes difficult to spot. They might simply pass over your head, or you’ll believe they’re too obvious. However, these hints can take money forms. They can either be subtle and difficult to spot or bright and clear. If you spot a hint such as “I don’t like spending Christmas alone” or if she asks you, “do you like company at Christmas” then these are signs. If she mentions dreaming about a company for holidays a lot, then it’s safe to say that the time is right. You’ve Been Together for A While - Time is sometimes enough to give you a reason to take things a step forward. Whether you’ve been together for six months or six years, time often solidifies a relationship, creating unwritten rules that almost tell you that the time has come to ask. You’ve Become Intimate - Intimate is like a seal of approval. Whether it’s a simple kiss or something more, once you’ve straddled the boundaries of a non-intimate relationship and an intimate relationship, it’s safe to say they’re into you. If this is you, then you can safely acknowledge that they’re ready to be asked the important question. How to Invite Your Date to Celebrate Christmas So, you’ve decided you are certain that the time is right to ask your partner to join you at winter holidays, but now you’ve got to actually ask them. This is probably the most daunting part of the process, but don’t worry, it’s easier than you might think. The idea is to ensure you pick the right moment and do it in the right way because that enables you to capture their attention and their feelings! Pick Your Favourite Spot Whether you’re still relatively early in your dating journey or you’ve been dating for months, you might have a special place you enjoy together. Take the time to enjoy a moment together and venture off to your favourite spot. With the moment feeling right, you can then ask your partner if they’d like to spend Christmas with you. With the right setting, the feeling will be right, and they’ll definitely say yes. Ask Them Via Text or Email A text message or email might remove the feelings and intimacy of this special moment, but if distance and work prove a challenge, then this becomes the easiest option. The great thing about text or email is that you can use the right words to describe your feelings. You can become a real wordsmith, and you might even consider yourself to be the next Shakespeare, but you can get your feelings down in words and ask them to join you during the festive period. Send them Flowers It doesn’t matter whether your partner is male or female; flowers can do the trick. Send some flowers and attach a simple message asking them to join you for Christmas. The flowers would have been enough to impress alone but now you’ve enhanced the surprise by asking them to spend Christmas with you! Of course, flowers are commonly sent to women, but this double-hit will really win you some points on the relationship board. Invite Them for Dinner Dinner impresses everyone, so inviting your partner works wonders. The idea of a romantic meal is guaranteed to leave your partner feeling special, but it creates a magical moment to drop the question on them. Asking them to spend Christmas with you during dinner is certain to work wonders and is certain to result in them answering with a resounding yes! Enjoy a Romantic Stroll Walking hand in hand creates the perfect option for asking your partner to join you at Christmas. Stroll along together and create the perfect environment by putting everything in place. This could be enjoying a stroll on the beach, a walk through the forest, or a walk through the park. Just being together enables you to broach the subject and ask them to join you for Christmas. Where to Celebrate Christmas with your Partner   Invite Them to Christmas Dinner with Your Parents This huge decision might seal your relationship and take it to the next level. Spending Christmas with family is what the festive period is about, so invite your partner to join you. Whether they’re meeting family for the first time or not, this is the perfect opportunity to show you really appreciate and love your partner. Take Them for Dinner Spending Christmas together isn’t about spending Christmas day together. Christmas is a period that’s drawn out over a period of weeks, so embrace each moment. Book a special restaurant and invite them for a special Christmas meal. The atmosphere and Christmas spirit create the perfect setting to enjoy the festive period together. Book a Pantomime Christmas is celebrated in many different ways, but a pantomime is an option that immerses you both into the Christmas spirit. Enjoy the laughter and excitement while spending time together; it creates a dreamy Christmas experience that’s enjoyed together. Pick a Christmas Tree Picking a Christmas tree has become a Christmas tradition for many people. Therefore, inviting your partner to search for Christmas trees with you becomes a meaningful experience. Hunting for trees builds the Christmas spirit and excitement, but it’s something they’ll embrace and enjoy with you. Explore a Winter Wonderland Nothing screams Christmas more than a Winter Wonderland. The aroma of Bratwursts fills the air; the music and holiday spirit echoes around the place. Enjoy the funfair rides, sip mulled wine, and even hit the ice rink. This amazing experience is romantic, thrilling and it certainly creates the perfect Christmas setting. So, celebrating Christmas together is a special thing. However, picking the perfect moment to ask shouldn’t leave you shivering more than Jack Frost. Instead of avoiding the question, create the perfect environment, and you’ll feel like a boss when asking your partner to spend Christmas with you.
Alice
Dating ideas
16 Dec 2021

How to Find Yourself a Holidate

Christmas becomes a time that’s traditionally spent with people you love, including friends and family. It’s party season, the season of giving, and a season for avoiding spending time alone. Nobody enjoys tucking into a Christmas dinner for one, so why not make it your mission to find yourself a holidate? If you’re wondering what a holidate might be, then you might want to familiarise yourself with the Netflix film. If not, then it’s finding someone who will make your holidays a little more bearable by becoming your date during the holidays! With the holidays fast approaching, don’t leave things too late or succumb to another festive period of loneliness. Sure, you can opt for that option if you want and become much like Tom Hanks in Castaway (don’t forget, he had Wilson!), but why give up and assume it’ll become another Christmas like every other? Find yourself a holidate and enjoy the holidays in style. However, you might be wondering where a holidate can be found? The good news is that you can find a holidate almost anywhere; it’s just about exploring those options and making them work for you. It’s Time to Make a Change It’s too simple to fall into the trap of accepting a lonely Christmas as you were a Scrooge. After all, it’s something you’ve become used to. Those sprouts won’t taste any better with the company, but the entire Christmas period will become more enjoyable when you’ve got company. Loneliness isn’t something that anyone should experience, especially during this magical time of year. Therefore, it makes perfect sense to begin the search for a holidate. However, the idea might leave you feeling anxious or concerned because the idea is a completely new concept, but fear not; it’s not as bad as you might think. You should change your mindset and convince yourself that you deserve much more. It’s too simple to continue to fall into the idea of spending Christmas alone. It’s easier to take no action than to take action, but choosing to do something will reward you with much more enjoyment than you ever imagined. Sure, everyone is different. Some are confident, others are shy, but believing in yourself becomes the most important element of finding someone to spend Christmas with. Don’t give up your search but instead, focus on your needs. Imagine the feeling of enjoying each moment with someone unique and someone who becomes your date for the holiday! There’s no commitment required, just a mutual understanding of the arrangements. Don’t worry about being judged or embarrassing yourself. Being alone at Christmas is probably more embarrassing than attempting to meet new people, so it’s probably time to roll up your sleeves and begin looking for someone to join you during the festive period. Where Can You Find a Holidate? A holidate isn’t a mythical creature; it’s someone who will become your date during the Christmas holidays. However, you’re going to need to discover the right places to find someone, but we’ve got your back! Speed Dating Christmas Events Perhaps the idea of speed dating leaves you feeling slightly awkward. Moving around tables to sit opposite someone who leaves your hands feeling sweaty might not fill you with excitement but bear with us! Speed dating events with a focus on Christmas create the perfect place to meet new people. Everyone at a speed dating event is seeking a partner, but at Christmas time, people might become more forgiving than usual. Therefore, one simple conversation might be all it takes to find yourself, someone, to spend Christmas with. Don’t worry about the small talk; think about the bigger picture and focus on connecting with people. The aim should be to keep your options open, so impress as many people as possible and wait for the fruits of your labour to flourish! Hit a Christmas Party! The work Christmas party often leaves most people grabbing the Alka Seltzer the day after as they attempt to tackle their hangover and forget about their antics during the party. However, this doesn’t have to be you! Use the Christmas party to dance, chat and flirt your way into the life of your favourite colleague that you’ve been indirectly flirting with in the office all year. Sure, a little Dutch courage goes a long way but don’t worry about that. If that man or woman in the office you’ve been drooling over pays you attention, then go in for the kill and make your mark! Ask them about their plans for Christmas but remember this is nothing more than small talk because eventually, you should ask them to share the Christmas spirit with you! Venture Around a Winter Wonderland Winter Wonderland is the perfect place for meeting new people. It’s the bright lights, the excitement, and the setting that ensures everyone is immersed in the moment. Whether you’re someone who likes to take to the ice or someone who prefers to soak up the vibe at the bar, Winter Wonderland is the perfect spot for meeting new people. All it requires is one conversation, a simple smile or remark, and you’re on your way to finding that perfect holidate. Don’t worry about feeling like you’re some kind of stalker; it’s completely natural to feel this way when looking for a date. The Christmas spirit runs through every winter wonderland, which means you’re certain to discover someone here. Head to a Christmas Show Christmas shows are the bedrock of every Christmas period. Whether it’s a show on the famous film Elf with Will Ferrell or a traditional pantomime, you’re certain to find plenty of singles who are looking for a date. The feel-good atmosphere and the laughter are like natural ice-breakers, which means approaching someone becomes so much easier. Christmas isn’t a time to be alone. Every Christmas film, every story, and every holiday song reminds us that it’s a time to embrace with people. Therefore, don’t give up and assume it’s another standard Christmas coming your way. Instead, grab Christmas but the scruff and show it that this is going to be a Christmas like no other!
Alice
Dating ideas
01 Dec 2021

Date Ideas for Winter This Season

As the days become shorter and the temperature drops, the world becomes a very different place. However, it also becomes a time when events open and things become festive too, all of which helps to create the ideal date situation. Sure, we’re not going to suggest sunbathing on the beach with your date, but we do have some top ideas for you to check out. Visit Winter WonderlandWinter Wonderland is an experience that encompasses the magic of winter and Christmas. The bright lights are enough to capture your imagination, but with the smell of Bratwurst wafting through the air and the exciting atmosphere, there’s plenty to keep you entertained. It’s a winter extravaganza like no other, but you can spend time enjoying the old-school fairground rides before sipping a warm glass of mulled wine to get you in the mood. Winter Wonderland can be found in many cities across the UK. Catch a ShowIf wandering around in the cold isn’t quite your thing, then whip off your bobble hat and coat and settle down for an evening of entertainment. There’s a whole range of shows to explore this winter which means you’re sure to find something to keep you both entertained. Embrace the glitter and sparkles of Moulin Rouge, or get yourself in the Christmas mood with a Pantomime. Explore Some Wizardry MagicIf you’re both fans of Harry Potter, then make the trip to Warner Bros. Studio Tour London - The Making of Harry Potter. Try some butterbeer, check out the sets and see some of the costumes and props from this famous film. This mesmerising experience enables you to feel like a child again but you’ll find yourself immersed in the world of Harry Potter as this brings the films to life. Try Some Ice SkatingThe UK isn’t blessed with frozen lakes and romantic, icy backdrops, so an artificial ice rink will have to do but let’s not kid ourselves; it always guarantees a good time. Whether you grace the ice like Jane Torville or Christopher Dean or you’re simply like Bambi, it doesn’t matter. The experience of spending time holding onto each other as you move around the rink is certain to help you connect. So, it doesn’t matter whether you’re more in tune with the flip or the fall-on-your-face; this is certain to provide a whole load of laughs. Try an Outdoor Drive-in CinemaWho says you have to book tickets for your local cinema screen? You can go one step further and arrange to visit your local outdoor drive-in cinema. This is not something we’re hugely familiar with in the UK, which makes it a real novelty that’s a whole load of fun. Don’t worry; there’s still popcorn and snacks as well as great films, all of which can be enjoyed from the comfort of your car! Enjoy A Christmas MarketChristmas Markets have grabbed the hearts of British People, and they are growing in popularity. The smell of chestnuts roasting and people enjoying the festive spirit is enough to keep you hooked. You can wander around, take in the different stalls and even stop off for a snack. It’s the ideal date for a laid-back experience where the only pressure is deciding what sauce to put onto your Bratwurst! Christmas Lights Switch OnAlmost every city will have a Christmas Lights switch-on event. Don’t worry; it’s nothing too sophisticated as it usually involves some obscure celebrity pushing a button or pulling a lever. Either way, the moment is one to cherish and makes for a great way to see in the winter with someone who means something to you! Pick Up Pace with Some Speed DatingNot everyone has a partner at Christmas, but speed dating could get you the best Christmas gift yet! Pick a themed Christmas speed dating event where you might have to wear your best sparkly earrings with stars and deers or garish Christmas jumper and get meeting people. It’s a whole load of fun, and you get to meet a load of people in a short space of time! Watch a Christmas Carol ServiceFind a church, cathedral, or even a street corner and enjoy those Christmas carols in style. Whether you’re someone who loves Jingle Bells, O Come All Ye Faithful, or Silent Night, the music and singing are certain to have you moving along with the beat and getting in the spirit. Visit a Light FestivalMany places around the country are holding light events. Commonly they take place in large estates or parks. Wander through different light displays and soak up the moment with your date. It’s a great option for escaping the real world for a small moment and embracing the wonders of bright lights against the dark winter sky. Find a Rooftop BarRooftop bars can be found in almost every city, but you can soak up that cityscape and the bright lights in style. Wrap up warm, grab a table and order your drinks. You’ll be given a blanket for warmth, or there might be heaters, so don’t worry about freezing because you’ll be more focused on the surroundings and your date! Take a River TourMany big cities have a large river running through their heart. So, book a river tour and take in the city from a new perspective. It’s a great way to spend time together as you can take in the sights and even enjoy a romantic meal together. Do a City TourIf you want to learn more about your city or the city you’re visiting, then a guided tour is a great way of taking in the main sights. You’ll learn about the history, the weird stories, and some quirky facts, but it’s a perfect way of spending an hour or two immersed in something that keeps you both engaged. Winter is a brilliant time of year, so don’t hide yourself away from the ice and cold. Embrace these magical months and discover for yourself just how winter can make the ideal time to date!
Alice
Dating ideas
08 Nov 2021

How to Deal with a Breakup and Start Dating Again

Loss in any form is hard to deal with. Some take their time to heal, whereas others move past as quickly as possible. No matter your method, there’s hope for you yet! Love and loss, two things that haunt us as we move through life; both bring their rewards and their hardship. Everyone’s likely to go through at least one nasty breakup in their life, sometimes we see it coming, but invariably it’s out of the blue and gut-wrenching. However, the life lessons learned from a split are vital to romantic development and in maturing your senses. It’s a horrible process but an invaluable one by the end of it. It’s argued that men and women deal with breakups differently; on one side, you have men who go out on a bender straight away and grieve later; on the other hand, some women recover first and then party. There’s no right or wrong answer to how you deal with it; if you get past it and find someone better, you’ll be okay. But how to find a new partner when your loved one has left? Speed dating has seen an increase in popularity recently, and it’s an interesting setup. Being in the UK, you’re likely to find mainstream speed dating groups with ease. They may not be exactly like the ones depicted in television or film, but going through the group date with lots of handsome guys and cute girls has undeniable charm. Tips to Recover from a Break Up So, the worst has happened, and you find yourself newly single; how do you put the pieces back together? It’s not a linear process, but if you’re taking steps in the right direction, that’s all that matters. Whether you’re a man or a woman, the tips we’ve collected are guaranteed to ease the wounds of grief from separating. Take some time to yourselfIt’s important when trying to get over something emotional to take our time. If the feelings were genuine, you wouldn’t bounce back right away – take your time to feel everything. It will hurt, but the more you do now, the better the recovery. You don’t have to do this alone; you can hang out with friends or go to the pub; the environment and company are irrelevant. Just ensure you’re not smothering your emotions. Have a supportive friendship group or therapistIf you’re already in therapy, then now would be the time to lean on this support; they’re paid professionals and will know exactly how to guide you through this pain. If you don’t have a therapist, it’s time to lean on your friends more. They know how to cheer you up, don’t just hide in a duvet pit until you’re better. Time for self-care!It’s important to look after ourselves! Depending on your gender will change what works for you. However, both men and women can enjoy a decent bubble bath. It’s a full-body relaxation that anyone can enjoy! Other than that, doing things for yourself is a good idea to keep your mental health in a good position. Create boundariesSet boundaries with your ex that protect your emotions. It’s too easy to rebound, especially if you end on good terms. It’s fine to occasionally chat, but don’t meet up alone and don’t talk to them about dating. Keep the boundaries clear, and you’re more likely to move on.   Feeling Empowered and Not Losing Yourself The key to getting back to yourself after a breakup is returning to hobbies/ habits you lost when getting into a relationship. When we become committed to another person, our free time quickly diminishes. When freshly single, it’s the perfect opportunity to get back to our roots; this realigns our souls and aids the healing process. It’s simple enough; the challenge is committing to it again and not feel awkward. We suggest taking it a hobby at a time! If you were a gym enthusiast before the relationship, start with that. Exercise is so important for mental health, and the more we work our bodies, the better we feel. We’re not suggesting a major spiritual journey like you see in Eat Pray Love but get to know your body – its reaction to grief, what makes you feel better, etc. to feel more empowered, follow our list of tips to get you started and push you onto this journey of self-discovery. Speak positively. The biggest step to self-empowerment is speaking kindly about ourselves and the world. It’s easy to get hung up on the bad stuff, and this is guaranteed throughout our lives. However, being able to shift focus to the silver lining is what reasserts our power. Finish tasks. There’s potentially a lot of odd jobs you’ve had on the back burner... start finishing them! The smallest task finished can feel rewarding to get started. You’ll quickly notice how quickly the brain fog clears. Try making a physical list and ticking them off; it keeps you organised and feels extra good. Question negativity. What triggers it? Why do you spiral when everything else is fine? This is a lifelong task but is the most empowering! When we know our triggers and how to manage stress, we become a better version of ourselves. Know when to reward yourself. We get so caught up in nit-picking our weaknesses/downfalls that we rarely congratulate ourselves. No matter the achievement, if it’s a positive step in the right direction, give yourself a reward. Doesn’t have to be anything expensive, just whatever feels right to you. When we treat ourselves right, we’re less likely to let sub-parr people into our lives.   Is Speed Dating Still a Thing? Now onto the part where we finally feel ready to love again, or at least feel the intimacy. After a breakup, you’re likely to feel apprehensive towards dating of any kind. We want to protect the heart we just fixed. The hardest pill to swallow is that if we want to fully heal, we need to get back on the dating horse. Putting ourselves out there reminds us that we’re still desirable and have options! The most empowering thing you can do for yourself right now. But which type of dating is best for you? Picking the right romantic path could make or break this healing process, and we’re here to walk you through it. So, let’s go through the dating paths you could take next. Online dating. This one is quite the umbrella term as it covers many different types. Hook-ups, relationships, fetish, local, long-distance, video calls, etc., there’s lots to unpack with this one and will require more research. It completely depends on what you want next romantically. Blind dates. If you’ve got friends desperate to match you with someone, then blind dates could be a good option for you. Extra nerve-wracking but is a lot like playing the lottery. You might just bag yourself a Tom Hardy. Speed dating. Seems old fashioned or almost fictional, but this form of dating is coming back around and is the amalgamation of online and blind dating. You have the choice that comes with online dating (and events sometimes even happen online) but the excitement of the unknown you get with blind dates. If you truly want a fresh start but don’t want to faff with going out with someone you know, then speed dating could be for you. You can pick from the singles at the event but also get the thrill of meeting a stranger. Additionally, gauging attraction is much easier to do in person, another bonus to speed dating. To speed date, there’s no denying the necessity of confidence; speaking to new people and going on quick dates isn’t for the faint-hearted. However, we recommend you give it a go regardless! Nothing’s achieved in our comfort zones. To aid this, we’ve collected a list of questions/conversation pieces to make the process easier. Where are you from? A simple question but could be vital in the decision-making process. Are you seeking a long-distance relationship or someone close and reliable? Not all attendees will be local; ensure you get this question in early. What exactly are they looking for? Ask for their brutally honest answer; no one wants to be messed around, especially not after a breakup. Be clear about what you want and be strict with yourself. Their beauty isn’t worth abandoning desires/ morals. What’s special about you? Sounds rather cut-throat but is a direct question they can respect. Plus, their reaction could show you how seriously a person takes themselves. Can they laugh this off as a form question, or can you see the signs of ego getting wounded? Whoever can take this lightly is the one to take home with you. Listen to their response though, is their key relationship quality what they’re secretly wanting in a relationship?   It’s Time to Move on To conclude, the trials and tribulations of a breakup whilst gut-wrenching are necessary to reconnect with ourselves as adults. It’s easy to lose ourselves in the motions of life, which is why jarring experiences like these can bring us back. Go back to our roots of you and what brings you joy. Try speed dating! It’s online and real-life dating combined in this whirlwind of endorphins, nerves, and excitement. There truly is no experience like it, and the skills gained will translate into all areas of life. Got an important business meeting with people visiting the company? Where else would you get the experience of chatting with and trying to impress multiple new people?
Alice
Dating ideas
01 Oct 2021

10 Reasons Why Coffee is the Perfect Date

Dates take many different forms, some are completely whacky, and others are rather straightforward. However, there are those dates that keep things rather simple. Having a great date idea might leave you feeling as though you’re going to earn points with your date, but a great idea doesn’t always guarantee success. Men and women go on dates are to learn all details regarding their potential partners in a carefree environment, to flirt and listen to one another, which is why sharing a cup of coffee might make the perfect date option. The drink itself doesn’t make you a better listener, by the way! It’s just that sitting there with a cup and looking all sophisticated can give you a bit of clout when it comes to impressing your date. Why is it a perfect date idea? It’s a Cheap OptionYou can rinse your bank account of your life savings by taking your date to the swankiest restaurant in town, but that won’t guarantee success when dating. It won’t impress, and while the food might be amazing, the conversation can be interrupted by course after course of food, leaving you feeling frustrated. However, the great thing about coffee is that it often costs nothing more than the loose change you find down the back of your sofa. Even at a posh coffee shop, you won’t spend too much on coffee and cake for you and your date. It’s not a requirement to have an expensive date, to begin with. It’s all about getting to know each other. So, make a smart choice and head to a local, quirky coffee shop for something different. You can chat, soak up the atmosphere and build that relationship the right way! A Coffee Order Tells You a Lot About SomeoneDon’t consider yourself some kind of fortune-teller or a psychic when it comes to what they order, but you can learn more than you realise about individuals based on how they order their coffee. Are they friendly with the barista? Do they respect their role and speak up, or turn away and act high and mighty? Are they quiet when ordering, or do they bellow their order like a foghorn? How they order will be an element of insight into their personality and who they are. Are they the type to start a conversation and get to know the barista, showing you that they’re open and ready to begin chatting? Keep a tab on how they order their coffee, and you’ll be armed with more information than you realise! It’s Perfect For Having a ConversationCoffee brings people together, making it the ideal ice breaker! You’re sitting around a single table with nothing more than a coffee between you and your date. There’s nothing more to do than have a conversation with the person you’re sitting opposite. This is what makes coffee the perfect pick for that first date. We all understand the main goal of the first dates. It’s about learning about the other person and getting away from how you met, such as through an app or online. So, after meeting the individual in the flesh, you can determine for real whether they’re worth booking a second date for. Coffee is quick, but it’s also a great choice for keeping things simple! You’re Not Drinking Alcohol, So You’re Straight TalkingToo often, dates tend to follow the same old arrangements. This often involves meeting in a restaurant or bar. Either of these options will involve cocktails or wine, both of which cause you to lose your inhibitions. Furthermore, loose lips sink ships which means what you say could cause problems! While alcohol might give you confidence, it turns you into someone else, but coffee won’t do that to you. With a coffee, you won’t just get that caffeine kick! You’ll also have control which ensures you remain yourself when having conversations. Furthermore, you won’t release your deepest, darkest secrets like you would if you’ve been sipping alcohol which is also a bonus, as you don’t want to watch your date darting for the door at the first opportunity! You’ve Got An Easy Get-Out ClauseOnce you commit to a date at a restaurant or a date watching a band, then you’re invested. You’ve invested in the entire duration of the event, and that can leave you feeling as though you’re ready to scratch your eyeballs out if your date isn’t all you expected! The great thing about coffee is its ability to be consumed quickly. If things are heading in the wrong direction, finish your coffee and use an excuse such as “sorry, I’ve got to get home to take a work call”. If things are going well, you can order another coffee, but you’re not tied to the table, which is always useful when meeting someone for the first time! Coffee is Good For Your HealthAnother excuse for grabbing a coffee with your date is that it’s actually a healthy beverage. It comes with lots of benefits such as boosting your mood, helping to clean your liver and leaving you feeling mentally alert. The latter is always good when keeping on your toes with a new date. When you are dating and drinking a beverage that benefits your health, you’re getting something from the date, even if the person you’re with doesn’t tick every box! Coffee is CasualCoffee isn’t pretentious or lavish; it’s very simple and understated. Sure, you can add cream to your coffee, add some syrups or request some exotic kind of milk, but ultimately, it doesn’t get any more casual than coffee. You’re almost grabbing a coffee and plonking it down on a table which is about as normal as things can get! You then sink into your seat, get comfortable and begin chatting to your date. There are no bells and whistles here; all you’ll experience is good coffee and, hopefully, great conversation! It’s potentially one of the easiest date options because you don’t have to think about anything other than chatting with your date! You’ll See Lots of Random PeopleCoffee shops are random places where all kinds of people go. Whether you’re people-watching or not, you can begin to use those people in the coffee shop as inspiration when the conversation begins to fizzle out. “Look what that guy is wearing over there” or “ I love the book that the lady next to you is reading”, these kinds of things can lead you to better conversations and new areas to explore with your date. It’s the reason why coffee makes for the ideal choice when dating. Coffee is FlexibleBook a restaurant, and you’re tied to a time and a place. Turn up late, and your date won’t be impressed. Cancel, and you’ll never see them again. Coffee is different. It fits around your schedule even if you’re running late because, for some reason, it’s a more laid back option that gives you that element of freedom. Arrange to meet at a time in a certain coffee shop, and you’re running late, that won’t be a problem. Find yourself in another part of town and need to make a quick change? No issue, just change the coffee shop. You can arrange to meet and have a coffee at any time. Grab a mid-morning pick-me-up or round off that touch day at work with a coffee; it’s just so simple! You Get to See What Coffee They Like!Coffee preferences can say a lot about someone. Grab a basic Americano, and you might consider that individual to be relatively simple and possibly lacking adventure. Throw a latte into the mix or a cappuccino, and you can consider them to be some kind of coffee connoisseur who likes to explore new things. If they’re ordering the latest invention, which includes syrups and marshmallows as well as any other ingredients, then it’s fair to assume they have a wild side and expecting a good time! Coffee is immensely popular, and while it’s a laid back choice, it actually makes for the ideal date. There are no expectations or lavish decor to detract from what’s really going on. It’s the bare bones of date, but that’s always a good thing. With everything stripped away, you have the scope to focus on what’s in front of you!
Alice
Dating ideas
12 May 2021

How to Turn Your Online Matches Into the Perfect First Date

Meeting hot singles with online dating sites is the easiest step to finding true love. Following the match, you then have to actually meet in person! Unfortunately, many struggle when making the transition from online to face-to-face, but after you read on, you definitely won't be one of them! After matching with perfect singles online, simply chat and get comfortable enough to ask them out and actually go on a perfect date. Don't worry; it's certainly not as hard as it sounds! So, You've Met Your Match Online, Now What?   Find Easy Ways to Talk to Your Match Online Before the Date! Closely following the matching process with singles online, many people get stuck trying to move onto the next stage: conversation! With these various tips and tricks to getting to know your partner, you're definitely bound to score a date!Everyone has different interests and dislikes, and learning about your partner's likes can be especially tricky and can quickly make the conversation instantly awkward and robotic. However, when the conversation flows, you will soon have a pretty great impression of who they are. Here are some perfect and uncomplicated ways to help learn about your online match: Talk about various hobbies or interests, and then ask for their opinion and feelings towards it. If they also like that activity, talk about that a little. If not, ask what they prefer instead. Ask about their family. Siblings and family are an extremely important part of most people's lives, so asking is the perfect way to show your true interest. Unfortunately, not only do you need to learn about your partner, but previous to that, you need to actually start the conversation. The hardest part of online dating is striking up a conversation with your match, there are various ways to chat, but your best bet is always to be yourself. Here are a few conversation starters and tips to help you get started: "Hey, I'm new to the online speed dating scene. How about you?"- This is a perfect way to show you definitely don't play around, and they're literally one of your first encounters, which obviously makes them special! "Hey, What do you do in your spare time?"- asking questions always shows you're actually interested in them. Closely after this, give some information of your own to initiate more conversation! "Hi, how are you doing?" - this is short, simple, and to the point. It's easily the perfect way to start a conversation without jumping into anything too soon. A good thing to always remember is although you matched, you may not actually be suited. Avoid over-invested or seem too eager when initially starting a conversation. Once you have spoken for a while and decided you definitely want to date in person, it's time for the next step, asking them out! It can seem like a daunting and complex leap, but there are a few easy ways to ask someone on a date: Suggest an activity you both enjoy, draw from the previous conversation about interests. Ask when they're free and plan together. It shows you're actually interested in doing what they want. Keep it low-key for the first date, not too overwhelming or big. Read on to discover more about your first date with your online match! Struggling to Find First Date Ideas for You and Your Match? After speaking online for a while, the moment you feel comfortable with your feelings towards your partner, it's time to suggest a first date together. There are various important factors to consider when moving things from the screen to in person, such as asking them about a date, actually planning the date, and also getting ready to meet them. Although you may feel overwhelmed with the complicated work that goes into dating, it's simpler than you think; closely follow these guides to become a master dater!Every day countless singles make a move in their relationship from the screen to the restaurant, and it's easily done when you know how to. Asking someone on a first date is certainly intimidating, especially when you want it perfect. Timing is everything when it comes to asking your partner out! You might ask yourself how you know it's the perfect time to meet in person; the answer is extremely simple with three small tests for yourself!1) Do you like the person for them and not the idea of finding love?2) Are you confident you will both definitely have a good time?3) Do you have a good idea of their likes and dislikes so you can easily suggest various dates they would enjoy?If the answer is yes to all, it's time to ask them out!When asking someone out, it's always good to have various nonspecific ideas before mentioning anything to them. Ideas like a local restaurant, a quiet evening stroll, or the cinema are good to have in mind before planning a date. This is a good idea as you can easily incorporate what they like into it. For example, if they're a vegetarian, you can discover a local vegetarian restaurant to impress them with you being attentive to the details. Alternatively, if they love a great steak, you can find a restaurant that serves amazing steak. An evening stroll is definitely a nice addition to the end of the date as it's relaxing and intimate without being extraordinary. Walking together allows alone time without distractions. Another great idea for a first date is to choose somewhere more active and exciting. Mini golf and bowling are fantastic activities for a first date as they're low-key and not overly serious. First dates are always about seeing if you actually work well together, and you can't do that when you're tense.You now know when to actually ask your partner on a date and some good ideas; the rest is up to you! The Big Date Is Here! Do You Need Advice on How to Prepare? Whether you are a man or a woman, you obviously need to get ready for the perfect date! Don't worry if you're unsure about how to correctly prepare for meeting them face to face, simply follow this advice!How She Should Prepare For a First DateWherever your date is, you certainly need to be properly ready for anything. Whether it's a nice meal in a fancy restaurant or rock climbing at the gym, there are always extremely simple ways to be prepared for meeting your partner in person. Closely follow this advice, and you will be ready for anything! Pick out and try on your outfit beforehand! There is nothing worse than getting dressed for your date and discovering you sadly don't have anything to wear, or worse, the outfit you had in mind, unfortunately, doesn't work. This is the most important thing to remember when getting ready for a date! Body care! Not all women shave legs religiously; some never do. If you don't keep it natural, simply hop in the shower, whip out your razor and get yourself smooth to impress! Clean, tidy, and smelling nice is always great for a first date! No matter how well you might know your date, prepare for the worst. Always have a friend know exactly where you are, bring spare money, and have your phone charged. On the off chance, it's a bad date; you will certainly be ready for the taxi ride home. How He Should Prepare For a First DateMany people believe only ladies should prepare for first dates. Fortunately, those people are extremely wrong. There's absolutely nothing bad with a man being ready and confident for a date. There are various key tips men can easily do to be ready for their partner; the following advice is bound to help! Appropriate clothes! Much like women, it's always best to choose your outfit in advance. Pick the clothing that actually suits where you're going. You don't want to turn up to a fancy restaurant in jeans and a tee; similarly, you obviously wouldn't turn up for a hike in a suit. Always tailor the outfit to the activity! Tame the Mane! Whether you always have a clean-shaven face or a mighty beard, take great pride in your appearance. If you regularly shave, then make sure it's perfect. Similarly, if you have facial hair, keep it extremely clean, tidy, and well managed. You can't feel your best if you don't look it! Know the plan! If you planned the date alone or together, knowing what will happen is certainly a great way to prepare. Fear of the unknown and having surprises can wait until future dates; start safe and easy by constantly knowing what to expect! When you're both informed, you can prepare for anything! Here are a couple of ways everyone should prepare for the first date: Ice breakers! Unfortunately, on first dates, striking up a conversation can be hard, and you might feel extremely uncomfortable. If this happens, it's always handy to have a few conversation starters, ice breakers, or various questions ready to get them chatting again. Questions like where they grew up or about siblings are always bound to get the conversation flowing! Most importantly, BE YOURSELF! You're searching for a perfect partner. They, unfortunately, might not be perfect for you. The best person you can be is obviously yourself!
Alice
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05 May 2021

How to Capture Attention in Online Dating

If you’re tired of living alone, you want to place yourself in an emotional state where you feel ready for attracting your next romantic partner. Finding a loving connection means that your emotional needs will get met. You will have a partner to enjoy fun activities with. You can express that side reserved for intimate partnerships. This level of vulnerability is both terrifying and exciting as you grow close to someone and feel accepted for who you are.However, with pandemic-related social isolation over the past year due, the dating world has witnessed an increased focus on virtual speed dating. Essentially, the participants match with several singles within their preferred gender and age range. The event takes place over a short time frame. As a speed dater, you introduce yourself and chat briefly about a conversation starter. You see if there is interest between both parties in meeting again for a real date. This level of communication might include exchanging contact information or setting a second date (place and time).Where to StartAs things return to normal, consider speed dating online first and then follow up in real life. In this social context, you must compete with other people of gender same to your own and stand out. If you can’t make a good impression, then you might not get a date until you’ve tried several rounds of speed dating. Meeting success in this means literally building up a structure to follow during the whole dating process.How to Make a Great Impression Your goal is to increase your chances of finding love matches after the speed dating event. So, approach this like a job interview. What should people know about you? What are your life goals, your personal values, and your hobbies? What things do you want to do with a partner, and what do you like to do alone? What potential arrangements are you open to? Do you want marriage, cohabitation, kids, joint retirement, or other goals? These types of questions will surface in speed dating. If you don’t know the answers, then other participants might feel frustrated with you. They want to find someone who shares some of their goals.You are a unique person with many positive things to offer a future partner. You only get a few minutes to make a first impression. They look at your appearance, communication style, smile, warmth, and presence, ability to communicate, smell, manner of dressing style, and how the conversation goes. Many snap judgments that daters make are unconscious, especially whether you fit their type or have personal attributes they like or don’t like. Singles will get a “green” light to see you again or “red” light, as in we are not a match because I can’t imagine dating you. Sometimes, there is a sense of ambiguity, as in we might click, but we need another chance to hang out and see where it goes. While rejection or attraction is possible on every speed date, coming up as not a match doesn’t help you find romance.Appearance Tips Choose a combination of hairstyle, makeup, and clothes that make you feel comfortable. Wear your best colours. Wear clothes that accentuate your body type, such as A-line dresses for females with a curvy figure and slender-cut shirts and trousers slacks for men. Practice talking to your date in the mirror. Practice smiling in different ways that feel authentic. Conversation Techniques Place yourself in the other person’s shoes. This means practicing empathy. What can you say to help her laugh or relax? What can you do to keep the conversation going? Brainstorm what you will share with a person without violating your boundaries, revealing too much information so someone could find you, or making you feel uncomfortable. Watch for the person’s nonvisual communication, such as a frown or closed body language, which might indicate there is no attraction or a conversation topic is non-preferred. Tell a joke or share an embarrassing story to jumpstart the conversation. Don’t make false claims to make a person like you. If you say something that isn’t true or let a person jump to the wrong conclusions, such as that you work out daily, but you hardly go to the gym once per week, that’s setting yourself up for future problems or rejection. Be a good listener. Some people get over nerves on a speed date by talking too fast or asking too many questions. They also desire a good match, and your good listening skills can put them at ease. Don’t despair if there’s little time to talk about yourself or your dating goals. There will be time for that on a future date. You deserve to find the best match when experimenting with virtual or face-to-face speed dating. This competition tests your communication skills and your ability to make a good first impression. If you can be yourself, people will relax in your presence. They get better clues about your personality and whether you want the same things in a dating arrangement. Don’t expect to fall in love during this short exchange, but do expect to attract a physically appealing person and arrange a real date.You’ve Got This!In the end, the dating game includes rejection. Every person who wants a date with you leaves kind of positive feedback. You feel attractive and datable. If there is no second date, this rejection might make you feel worse about being single and living alone. If your self-esteem is not healthy, you could come out of virtual or live speed dating feeling that your chances of finding love are low. Work on yourself and your relationship goals first to present a positive persona before trying the dating game. Attracting the person you want is within reach! Take your time, prepare yourself and build your road to the dating success you’re seeking for. There’s nothing really difficult about that; remember that the generations of people before you were doing the same for ages. Most succeeded, why won’t you?
Alice
Dating ideas
24 Feb 2021

How to Date During a Lockdown - What You Need to Know to Find Success!

Everyone is in the lockdown, and everything is closed, so how to find a date? Experience the safe speed-dating session and unlock your love’s potential!The world has changed, which means dating has changed! Since the pandemic took hold of our society, we have all had to alter how we live our lives. We’ve gone from having the freedom to meet people and interact in-person to doing everything online, you’ve even got to speak with your own mother online, that’s how bad things have become!Between working from home and keeping yourself entertained, you’re eager to find love. However, bars are closed, gyms are closed, even the library is locked. In Britain, lockdowns have been exceptionally harsh, and many complain that the pandemic has killed their love life in one fell swoop, but it doesn’t have to be that way.Fortunately, the latest tech advancements have transformed how we meet. Introducing speed dating to the mix may bring a bit of spice to life in the lockdown. You read it right and yes, traditionally speed dating takes place in a venue, and you’ll move around from seat to seat, but even that has changed. So, if you’re a speed dating lover, you can still get your fix of rapidly getting to know a bunch of single people to find out who can be compatible with you! That’s right, you can sign up and meet people in the same way but online!After speed dating online, you might find a perfect match, and that means it’s time to come up with ways to impress them! What to do on a First Date? While we might be locked down, we still have the ability to connect in a relatively normal way. One of the most important elements of dating is to learn about each other. Therefore, the first approach is to explore further conversations and get to know one another. Using many of the online platforms for chatting or even WhatsApp, you can send images, ask questions and learn about your hobbies.In fact, you could recreate that first date in a bar by arranging an online video call with some drinks. This unique approach is unlike real dating as you’ll both be in the comfort of your own home, but still, you can enjoy some drinks, let the conversation flow and see where it takes you. This provides a great option for breaking the ice because we all know how difficult those first meetups or conversations can be!While the frustration of being penned behind a computer might leave you feeling like a jail scene from a movie, you can explore the potential to meet up. Of course, you’ll be required to follow all guidelines concerning meeting with other people and what you’re allowed to do. Despite this, if you choose to take this option, the best thing to arrange is a walk in the park. If you’re both fitness fanatics, you could choose to work out together or turn the walk into a run. Having a common interest and being in the company of each other provides the perfect opportunity to get closer and learn more after getting that initial spark during the speed date. Things to Do Together Sticking within the lockdown rules and keeping conversations restricted to Zoom or walks in the park will leave every day feeling like you’re Bill Murray in Groundhog Day. Despite this, the modern, digital world keeps your options open, giving you plenty to enjoy together. The more activities you explore together, the deeper the connection, helping to strengthen your relationship. So, if you’re locked in, what activities could you explore?Watch Netflix - Physically, cuddling together on the sofa might seem a million miles away. Despite this, your online streaming services such as Netflix provide the perfect opportunity to binge-watch box sets or watch the latest documentary. Discussing the shows to watch is going to provide insight into your compatibility but one you agree on something it’s time to chill. You can either set up a video call while watching so you’ll feel together, or you can send messages via WhatsApp. Whatever it might be, it’s the next best option.Play Games - The online world is packed with multiplayer games that can be enjoyed by all. For something unique, you can agree to play different board games whenever you meet online. One day you could immerse yourself into the Pandemic cooperative game (it seems quite fitting) while you can choose games such as Scrabble. The possibilities are endless, but keeping things fun can help to overcome the monotony of lockdown.Listen to Music - Everyone loves music, regardless of whether they are a hardcore music lover or someone who listens casually. Take it in turns picking songs while chatting over a video call. You’ll learn more about their tastes; you can impress them with your knowledge and show them new albums to dive into.Quiz it! - It’s like 2020 was the year of Zoom quizzed but why not make 2021 the year of more Zoom quizzes?! You’re going to need more people for this, so if you’re confident of taking things to the next step virtually then invite friends and family. It’s a great way to have fun! How to Behave on Dates Arranging a date with someone is proof that you’re attracted to them. This opportunity to connect involves understanding how to behave and act around others. Whether you’re meeting in person while keeping up with lockdown rules or connecting online, dating etiquette is vital to winning them over. It’s important to ensure you’re outgoing, happy and friendly. Afterall, lockdown is tough enough, so don’t add to their misery! A flirty and chatty approach will keep the conversation fresh and edgy, which is ideal for creating a memorable experience. Remember that conversations are a two-way thing, so don’t focus on yourself because it’s about them too. Ask them questions, respond to their answers and respect their decisions when choosing games, films or music together. It’s crucial to consider their feelings too. Perhaps they aren’t interested in meeting online today, or they are having a bad day, whatever the reason, the lockdown has impacted everyone so understand their needs. Doing this will earn their respect and show them your caring side. One of the most crucial elements of dating right is keeping everything fun. Make them laugh, tell some jokes (not cheesy one-liners!) and indulge in some stories, even if they’re embarrassing, which goes perfectly with the online bar idea we recalled in the previous paragraph. Showing them that you’re open to making fun of yourself and having a laugh together will impress and enable them to understand more about who you are, even if you just met at the speed-dating session. The key is to be memorable, but not in a bad way. Dating is Still Possible During Lockdown Life is extremely different, but finding love is still possible, even when everything is closed. Don’t let lockdown win and leave you feeling as though love is a million miles away. Have a friendly chat during a speed-dating session, select a compatible single and explore your potential relationship further by following the tips we listed above. What’s more, you’ll potentially meet a huge variety of guys and gals seeking dates and romance nearby, and they might have some ideas of their own to explore and bring life to! What’s not to love about lockdown?!
Alice
Dating ideas
29 Oct 2020

How to date while social distancing!

You‘ve speed dated, you’ve crushed hard and now you’ve even matched with each other, the conversation has continued and you want to take it to the next level, however your anxiety is high with all the new Coronavirus restrictions being put in place.Don’t worry, this blog is here to help you find creative, exciting and fun ways to date while staying safe. Don’t let the social distancing or the no mixing households rules stop you from building your relationship. As long as you’re adhering to the rules there is no reason you need to stop in your search for love, after all, Autumn and the festive periods can be the most romantic time of year. Below is a list of cute date ideas for you and your crush to explore while getting to know each other better.Autumn hikesWhether you live in a city or a beautiful country town, Autumn always provides you with the perfect scenery for a hike. The stunning colours, the crisp weather and the ultimate hot chocolate make for the idyllic date. Put on some comfy shoes and walk through the crunchy Autumn leaves and fallen acorns and conkers, while enjoying the company of your new connectionDate at the zooLions, tigers and bears... OH MY!Cuddly, fluffy and even scary, the zoo has so much to offer, with hundreds of beautiful animals and fun facts, the zoo is a wonderful date location. Get your steps in while enjoying the mystery of these different animals, you can even bring a picnic and eat amongst these unique creatures.Outdoor exerciseWith the temperature cooling, physical activity is much easier, it's the perfect time to get in some much needed exercise. With nature on its final high of the year, before all the animals go into hibernation and the leaves disappear, there is no better time to unroll your yoga mats, hit the pavements and parks or start a new fitness challenge with your crush.Ice skatingDon’t be too disheartened that the Christmas markets won’t be coming to the UK this year as there is still hope for the festive ice skating rinks to open. Especially in London, Christmas is the most romantic time of year for many of us, with the sparkling fairy lights above you, mulled wine being sold on every corner and the stunning outdoor ice rinks. Make sure this year you find the time to celebrate and get to enjoy the festivities.Bike rideGrab a tandem bike and hit the streets with your date. It’s a great way to challenge the trust in your relationship, develop rhythm with your partner and begin a romantic journey. However, if you’re not comfortable riding a tandem, ride alongside each other on your own bikes. See all the sites and take in so many new sceneries, get around the town quickly and enjoy each other's company.Pumpkin pickingWhen the sun is shining and there's a distinct chill in the air, it makes for the perfect brisk Autumn pumpkin picking day. Grab a cosy coat, hat and scarf alongside your date and hit up one of the many farms that let you pick your own pumpkins. The perfect backdrop to the perfect date.Picnic in the parkGrab a blanket, pack a picnic and bundle up in the cosiest items in your wardrobe ready to enjoy a beautiful Autumn picnic. Create the perfect setting with a nice bottle of wine, a cute rug and the perfect collection of nibbles… relax, enjoy and don’t forget the bottle opener and glasses!
Kasia
Dating ideas
27 Apr 2020

How to Behave on a First Date [Advices for Men and Women]

Introduction Picture yourself, in a glamorous restaurant, surrounded by scrumptious food and even better company. Yes that’s right, you’re on your first date! You did it, you got there! Oh boy... Don’t panic and just remember - act in a way that you’d expect others too. If you have never been on a date before, you may not know exactly how to behave and the way in which you should come across, especially with a stranger that you have never met. This may be because you’re feeling nervous or you feel comfortable, either way there are ways to act that will impress your date more! Therefore, here at SpeedDater, we have prepared some of the greatest top tips on how to behave and what to do in a first date. We hope to explain in detail all the tips on how to behave on a first date as a man and a woman with a few merging into both. This article will most definitely make you more prepared for your first dating experience if you know how to behave. It’s time to get reading and then you should be ready for your first date! Common Tips - How to Behave during a First Date These first five tips on how to behave on your first date are general and can be applied to both men and women who are in the dating situation. We hope that these are clear and easy to follow and that if you’re feeling nervous or unsure, this will make you feel more calm and collected before you go on your date! Be yourself This is probably very obvious anyway and may seem cliche, but being yourself is the only way you should be, especially if you’re wanting the other person to get to know you, for you! Sometimes when you’re nervous, there is a tendency to over act to impress your date, but they will probably be able to notice if you’re acting a little over the top. The only way you’ll really impress someone is by just being yourself, they want to see the real you, not someone you’re pretending to be just to sway them! Make a Decision Your date may want your opinion on where you should go, so they can see what you like or just help them with the decision. Don’t be afraid or feel like you have to hold back on choosing where to go or what to do on the date! This shows you can make up your mind and think on the spot, a good trait to possess. He or she is obviously being considerate by offering you the choice, so take it and go and do something fun and interesting! Don’t drink too much It’s understandable that you’ll want to have a couple of drinks on the date, but don’t let this turn into a completely drunk night out. This will not impress your date and unless you’ve both planned to drink a lot, and it is that sort of night, don’t over do the booze. Just have a relaxed evening of a couple of drinks over dinner so that you can still converse with your date! Keep sex out of the conversation It can be difficult to keep sex out of the conversation if you know you’re both interested in eachother, maybe you’ve been chatting a lot before and know that you’re attracted to eachother in everyway. However, even if this is the case, it is still not an advised topic to bring up on a first date. If you start talking about sex, you may come across in a way that you don’t intend to, so keep this conversation for when you know eachother a little better, Just enjoy learning about your date and discovering new things about them. Nonetheless, a little kiss at the end of the date never hurt anyone, but keep it to that for now! Be Punctual Being late won’t look good and will not impress your date. Leave the house with enough time and maybe arrive a little early?! Make sure that you check how to get there and plan your route so that there are no delays. Being punctual is very attractive and it doesn’t hurt to arrive on time or earlier. Who knows, maybe they arrived early too. This means, don’t also leave early too, unless you have a major event that is planned or something; plan your date on a day where you have the entire time free and can just concentrate on each other. How to Behave on a First Date as a Guy?   Show that you actually care The first tip on how to behave on a first date with a girl is, showing that you actually care. No one is impressed by a man who so obviously pretends to care or doesn’t show interest in the slightest. So make sure to ask your date questions and even if you don’t agree with the answers or are not feeling the date, still show that you’re listening and interested. Women don’t like rude men who don’t care, trust us. Also another way of showing that you care is by organising the date, and choosing somewhere fun and nice to go. Make her feel special and she’ll do the same back. Stay focused Focus on her and what she’s saying especially if you’ve asked a question and then just go on your phone… doesn’t look great! Keep your phone off or in your pocket whilst you’re on the date, you can attend to any messages later when the date is over. Being focused is so attractive and showing that you have time for that person means that you care and are interested in the date and what she is telling you. Not only should you stay focused through the first date, but also throughout the whole situation and if you have decided to see her again after the first date, still remain focused. Keep the conversation light This is the first date, so your aim is to enjoy eachothers company and get to know each other. So keep the conversation light and fun, obviously you can flirt a little if it feels right but don’t bring intense or overly personal topics into the first date! Firstly, talk about their interests, what they like on tv, what they like to do etc. Avoid topics like past relationships, close friends and family, politics, this can all come later! Keep it nice and simple for now. Look the part Do you think you know how to behave on a first date as a guy? Well you may have forgotten this very key advice - Dressing well! Depending on where you’re going on the date, dress to suit it; a restaurant - maybe wear a shirt and nice trousers. But then if it’s a coffee date in the day time, or going to see a movie, you could be a little more casual. Plan your date early so that you can plan what to wear in advance too! Wearing something that suits the date will not only create a great impression for your date but also hopefully make you feel more confident and make those first date nerves disappear. Have a positive attitude Before, throughout and after the date, keep your mind and attitude positive. You don’t know what’s going to happen during the date, it could go well, and it could not but either way remain certain and doubtless. Go into this date with the cup half full rather than empty because if you start assuming what is going to happen and that it might end badly, then it may end up that way because you won’t be in the right frame of mind. Guys, first dates can be exciting and sometimes lead to more but the way you behave will determine what happens after the first date, so read these tips carefully and follow them whilst you’re on your date! We hope you enjoy your experience, and hopefully there will be another date on the line. How to Behave on a First Date as a Lady?   Be ready So, how should a woman behave on a first date? Before anything, make sure you know what you’re doing on the date and where you’re going. This will help you to become more confident and probably less nervous when you actually arrive because you have prepared for the occasion. This could include what you’re going to wear, and how long you need to take to get ready. Having enough time to decide what you’re doing and relax before the date will most definitely make you feel more calm and behave in a way that is more comfortable when you actually arrive at the date! Offer to pay or split the bill Another tip on how to behave on a first date as a lady is to offer to pay or split the bill. There is a lot of talk around this topic, and usually it's the men who pay on the first date. This doesn’t have to be the case though, women, out of politeness, you could offer to pay half, especially if it is a mildly expensive date. Or...even though this may be a bit bold for some of you ladies, but you could even offer to pay the full amount?! This won’t only make you look like you are responsible but also that you are not just someone who expects the man to pay for every single lunch date. You could probably make a deal with him, (if there will be more dates) that you pay for this one, and he pays for the next one. This is the best way to get round that awkward conversation of who is going to pay for the next meal, museum entry or any activity that needs paying for! Show good manners This tip is very obvious as everyone should know how to act when they’re sat in a restaurant and obviously you should be comfortable, but don’t get too relaxed that you forget about your manners. Table manners are so important and if you’re chewing with your mouth open or slurping your wine, it may not come across too well…Going for a meal for your first date can sometimes be nerve wracking and you may feel anxious but just remember that if you practice good manners, it will go better for you both! Dress to Impress! Come to the date dressed for the occasion, so depending on what you’ll be doing, plan your outfit in advance and make sure you feel comfortable, powerful and great when you’re wearing it! This will really make you feel 100% better when you arrive at the date. Self-confidence is key ladies and the man you’re on a date with will notice if you are comfortable and feeling confident. It is such an amazing trait to possess so grab your favourite outfit and flaunt it. Be Honest Being honest is also an obvious tip on how to behave on a first date with a guy. However, sometimes you may be scared to say exactly how you feel. For example; If you arrive at the date and you don’t think it will work out, be honest with the guy, rather than just pretending that everything is ok, because this won’t be good for either of you down the line. Also be honest if you like him and want to go on a second date, don’t over do it but act like you care and show him that you do like him, and TELL HIM! Don’t hide behind your true feelings, and hopefully he’ll open up too. If you are both teenagers, being honest may be a little more difficult, but still try and open up! Final thoughts We hope you enjoyed these tips about how to behave on a first date for both men and women. The advice was divided into three parts; common tips for both men and women, how to behave during the first date as a man, and how to act on a first date as a woman. Nonetheless, all the methods above can apply to both men and women. It’s not as if you, men are just allowed to get away with not showing good manners, or being honest. Or women, you should also stay focused throughout the date and show that you actually care. Remember, dating is fun and should be an exciting moment in your life that could lead to so much more but you still have to act in a certain way, especially for the first date. You want to impress your date don’t you?! We know that these behavioural tips may be apparent to most of you, we just want to make sure that everyone is following a certain etiquette when dating...SpeedDater want you to have a second date, so be polite, dress well
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Best Outdoor Summer Date Ideas

Outdoor dates provide the ideal opportunity to relax and appreciate the present. Taking a trip with your companion and holding on tight to their hand is one thing; rollerblading with them when the sun shines, the wind blows through your hair, and the road under your feet is another. We become more open and intensely acquainted with one another as we have those exhilarating experiences. Maybe it’s the brightness, or the vitamin D, or the rainy-day kisses, or simply the lovely summer clothes. Something about alfresco dating strikes a chord with people, and you leave with a smile on your face and a sense of well-being. Summer is in full swing, the sun is up, and pieces of clothes have been reduced to crop tops and flip flops. Summer is a great season to spend time with the one you love since there are many ways to do it. Take a look at these summer date activities to keep the romance alive and the chemistry strong in your relationship. Movies at Drive-in Theatres Most people go to the movies in the summertime to relax and unwind, but on cool summer nights, a movie at a drive-in theatre can be a lovely and enjoyable experience. Watching a movie beneath the stars while nibbling on some movie munchies is one of the best ways to unwind. Keep some additional jackets and covers on hand if your date becomes too cold. There’s no happier place for a summer date than a drive-in theatre. If you don’t live near a drive-in, many communities show movies in open areas when the weather permits. Get Your Taste Buds Ready With a Wine Tasting Class It’s worth the drive to a local vineyard if one is close. It’s hard to find a better way to bring a couple together than with a delicious spread of food and wine. You may visit a local winery or vineyard, or you can have it delivered right to your door. Visiting a vineyard is the perfect way to spend a day: you’ll be able to take in the beautiful scenery, sample some delicious food, and maybe even learn a little bit about your favourite drink. Wine tasting is certain to lift your spirits and is also convenient since you can easily take a bottle home to recreate the moment. Go to an Amusement Park Visit a playground with your partner to demonstrate your adventurous side and your fun-loving character. There is no doubt that if you’re a thrill-seeker, a date like this will have your heart racing with a potential future partner. Even if roller coasters and terrifying attractions may not be your favourite, don’t fail to notice that there are parks that cater to a younger generation that are just as enjoyable. The day at the park provides plenty to choose from, whether you’re an adrenaline junkie or prefer the Ferris wheel. Make careful to check ahead of time since some of the more famous parks may demand pre-purchased tickets. Visit a Local Farmers’ Market A visit to a farmers’ market is another excellent option for an outdoor date that will make a lasting impression on both of you. If you’re interested in learning more about a variety of foods, this is a great opportunity to taste a variety of options. You’ll be able to tell whether you like each other more if you know what the other person likes to eat. Pick up some lunchtime delicacies and a bouquet of flowers for your weekend date from a nearby market. You may also get some fresh vegetables for supper that night. Go on a Hike The next time you search for a date idea, consider taking a trek together on a nearby path. With this activity, you and your partner can appreciate the beautiful scenery while getting to know one other healthily. Hiking also provides a wonderful opportunity to meet new people and share your experiences with them as you go over the terrain to immerse yourself in nature. Once you’ve reached the summit, you’ll enjoy sharing the breathtaking view with your loved one. Embark on a Road Trip You don’t need a vacation abroad to feel like you’re in summer, even if your dream trip to Spain or Germany has been put on hold. It would be best to visit galleries, historical attractions, and stores in a neighbouring town you have never been to. If at all possible, get a hotel room and extend your stay. In the end, it doesn’t matter where you end up. Your road trip music and stopping at several roadside sights are more significant than your destination. Take a journey to a destination neither of you has ever been before to bring out your inner explorer. Make a schedule of food and pastimes to enjoy yourself as if you were on vacation. Prepare a Picnic The benefit of a peaceful gathering such as a park picnic should never be underestimated. These dates make it possible for profound personal attachment and the basis of a great relationship. Picnic food is great, even if it isn’t the most creative summer date idea. Fresh fruit, yoghurt, fresh toast, and a nice bottle of white wine are just a few of the items we’d recommend you include in your feast. Enjoy the Outdoors By Going Camping You’ve got the hang of strolling now. You’ve completed the road trip and honed your hiking technique to a fine art. What comes next? A romantic getaway in the woods where you may spend the night cuddled up in your tents, sipping hot chocolate or coffee, is a great idea for a first date. Even if you don’t believe camping is for you, there are many ways to enjoy the outdoors this summer. Alternatively, you may set up camp in your garden for several hours and enjoy hot cocoa, cuddles, and a nice chat. Roasting marshmallows over a campfire helps a lot. Attend a Cooking Class/Workshop You and your significant other will have a great time together in a culinary class, even if you make pasta by hand or churn frozen yoghurt. Feeling pleased after doing something releases adrenaline. When you do this with your relationship, your brain makes the fantastic link between your significant other and those pleasant sensations. In addition to in-person programs offered by local eateries and cooking schools, you may also leverage the power of a broad range of online lessons. Try an Open-Air Fitness Class A romantic connection’s mental and physical health is enhanced when partners engage in physical exercise together. Endorphins and greater physical health work together to make people feel good about themselves and their relationships, which is a valuable asset in any romantic connection. Join a companion for an outside exercise and enjoy the nice weather. Enrol in a water exercise class or take up a new sport such as yoga or canoeing to take advantage of the mild weather while it lasts. Conclusion Are you sick of sitting home and watching Netflix? To spice things up a little, try one of these unique summer date ideas that inject some new life into your dating life. Summer dates are generally cheap or even free, which is one of the finest aspects of the season. You don’t have to restrict yourself to a love partner to test things out; you may also do them with your relatives and friends. When searching for a relaxed date or something a little more exciting, these summer date ideas are guaranteed to make a lasting impression.
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Meet your SpeedDater singles events team

  Let us introduce the SpeedDater team. We're fun and friendly with loads of personality - just like our guests. We have more experience than any other company in the singles events industry, so we're proud to bring you the best speed dating events and singles parties in the UK. We'll make sure your event is professionally run and we'll be on hand to answer any questions or even give out a few dating tips. Our years of experience understands that your first point of contact should be welcoming, approachable and put you at ease. Hell, we'll even have a drink with you (no tequila please!). Happy dating! Kasia Hey, my name is Kasia, I am SpeedDaters London events coordinator, excited to help our lovely singles find love! Sophie My name is Sophie. I was working as a host for SpeedDaterUK only a few months and then became an event coordinator, which I am very pleased about. I have always wanted to be Cilla Black! In my spare time I like to go to see improv shows and sometimes have a go myself! Sarah By Day and by Night I help people find love!    
Dating tips

Speed dating tips from the experts!

Smile It’s natural to arrive a little nervous to a speed dating event, particularly if you have never been speed dating before and don’t know what to expect. Trust me, after the first speeddate or two (and after the first drink or two!) you will realise it’s a really fun and easy going singles event with other friendly singles. Everyone is in the same boat – they want to meet new people just like you for friendship and dating. So, relax and smile. There is a famous saying that goes “smile and world smiles with you”. This may seem like really obvious dating advice but this really is the most helpful of all tips for speed dating! You’ll be surprised how often guests say “I liked so and so but they were a bit serious about it all”. Singles who are smiling and laughing give off positive energy and attract others towards them. Dating nights are fun, so always go with an open mind and a big smile.   Speed dating questions - avoid work! One of the best dating tips I give guests is to avoid talking about work too much at singles nights. Got a normal professional job? So will 99.9% of the rest of the room. Unless you’ve got a job as a lion tamer or professional champagne/bacon taster, it’s best to leave out the details of what makes you similar to every other person in the room. Although it’s nice to hear what people do to get a sort of background picture, don’t spend your precious 4 minute speeddate explaining how you’ve just taken on a new really complex finance modeling system which is bound to boggle and bore your date. You want to be memorable and have 4 minutes fly by and leave your date wanting more. You don’t want your date to feel like time stood still while they cry on the inside. It’s more interesting to find out what people do when they’re not at work. Super keen to travel through South America? Like spending Sundays pottering around vintage markets? Ever eaten so much pizza that you threw up on the tube? Great, it’s more interesting than your day job. We are not matchmakers at Meetusoon, so it’s up to you to use your time wisely and find out what you have in common. It’s important to not come with a scripted set of speed dating questions, but it never hurts to have a couple up your sleeve in case conversation dries up * I have never thrown up on the tube by the way, just saying.   What to wear speed dating The best dating advice I can give any single men or single women is to dress to impress. Dress as if you were going on a first date. After all, you are going on 8-20 first dates all in one night! First impressions really count at speed dating and singles parties. It’s better to be a bit overdressed than underdressed. At Meetusoon, we choose stylish singles events venues, and we recommend dressing in line with the venues guidelines. Some request no denim, it’s best to check each venue policy before attending. At lot of single professionals come straight from work so are in smart suits and dresses. What to wear speed dating women – a nice dress and heels is a great option, but also make sure you are comfortable too. Don’t be afraid to wear a statement necklace or brightly coloured accessory to stand out and be memorable. What to wear speed dating men – nice shoes, smart jeans and tailored collared shirt is always a wining combo! Think that noone ever notices shoes? Ladies do. Trust me.   Don’t just talk about yourself “Me me me me me me me me m–“ LOUD BELL RINGING! Talking about yourself non-stop for 4 minutes is not ok. Make sure you listen too, it’s always key in any strong relationship.   Speed dating tips for women Ladies, I’ve been there myself and the following speed dating tips for ladies are essential: Come with an open mind Make sure you are sitting down before you read this next sentence: you probably won’t meet Ryan Gosling or George Clooney at your singles event. Sorry! You will however meet new people who aren’t in your normal circle. Give the single guys a chance, even if they are not your ‘typical’ guy you go for. Maybe your ‘type’ isn’t working out for you? Make new friends You can never have too many friends right? So don’t be afraid to find a new gig buddy or jogging partner. Get your mates to meet his mates out for an after work drink and bam – his single work friend is right up your street. I also hear ladies swapping details with other ladies sat near by. Why? Sometimes all your mates are getting married/having babies and you just need some more wingwomen. I once had a guy secure a job interview during a speeddate. Network ladies, network! Don’t get too pissed Nobody likes a pretty girl with a foul drunken pirate mouth. It’s easy to knock back a couple of cocktails as dutch courage but don’t overdo it. Especially if you’re coming straight from work on an empty stomach. I once saw a girl vomit during her last speeddate. True story! It wasn’t sexy. Or funny. Try more than one speed dating event Singles nights are a numbers game. Sometimes you fancy 1 guy, sometimes you fancy 4 guys and sometimes you don’t fancy anyone. If you don’t fancy anyone you can come again for free speed dating under the guarantee we offer. Try a few singles events to increase your chances of finding your perfect match. Around 80% of singles get at least one match, and while these are good odds, remember that for 20% of guests it just wasn’t their night. The largest dating night we do is the singles parties format. Our singles party nights get up to 300 guests. Don’t be afraid to come to a singles night on your own Lots of guests come to dating events and singles parties on their own. Singles events are absolutely a great ladies night out. It’s great having moral support from your bestie, but you do risk chatting to your friend and not getting out of your comfort zone. Also consider being split up from your friends when the speed dating starts. Let’s say you are a group of 6 work colleagues on a single girls night out. If you are all sat in a row guys will be a) slightly intimidated by such a big group and b) possibly a bit bored by everyone having the same job and hearing bits in advance about their next date. So, consider 3 groups of 2 spread out. Just ask your host for more layout speed dating tips on arrival. If you are attending a singles night on your own, join up with a group of single women at bar so you can have a bit of a gossip before the speed dating kicks off.   Speed dating tips for men Take heed of the following speed dating tips for men: Book your singles event ticket in advance Single women tend to book in advance, and single men often leave booking dating events to the last minute. Spontaneous you say? Here’s how booking last minute actually leads to imbalanced singles events. If ladies places are sold out, this often means there are women on the waiting list, but we need more guys to book first. If you leave your booking till on the day, when we contact the waitlist they have made other plans or it’s too late notice. Basically, the earlier you book, the more single women you will meet. Network Most guys arrive on their own to dating nights, which is totally fine. You are there to meet single women after all and can hang out with the lads anytime. As soon as you sign in with your host at the singles event, join one of the other guys at the bar and say hi. Single ladies love seeing guys chatting and having a laugh before the event starts. It makes you seem friendly and approachable. As most ladies arrive in a pair, you then have nice equal numbers to join up before/after the dating event. When you are asked ‘how do you two know each other’ you can say you just met randomly that night which proves you are a really social, friendly person. It’s a big deal for single women to introduce potential boyfriends to their friends. If she can see you can hold your own with strangers then you’ve got a little tick instantly. Contact your friendship and dating matches Ladies are far more conservative than guys on the ticking front. If they are a bit unsure they sometimes tick ‘friend’ instead of ‘date’. This is why guys tend to get less love match ticks than women. Get in touch anyway, it could still be worth meeting up, or getting a group of mates together for a low pressure night out and see what happens. Move on promptly between dates There is usually at least 1 minute between each speeddate. This gives singles enough time to wrap up the conversation and write down badge numbers/names. Don’t just talk through the 1 minute, or you won’t have time to write anything down. Even if you really really really like your date you still need to move on anyway. It is called SPEED dating for a reason – they dates are deliberately short. Will that extra 30 seconds really win her over? Probably not. But it will annoy the lady next to her who is sat on her own waiting, the guy behind you who is wishing you’d hurry up and your host who is trying to keep the dates even/keep a smooth flowing format. Remember to step away from the table so your date can have some privacy to fill out her scorecard too. It’s even more important at singles parties to move promptly, as the speed dating is done in short 30-40 min sessions. You will not meet every person in the singles party session, you just meet as many as possible in 30-40 mins. So, the quicker you move, the more people you will meet at singles parties. Think of this as speed dating etiquette for gentlemanly single men. Sell yourself What makes you stand out? What makes you memorable? Remember there are up to 20 other single guys to compete against so you want a bit of banter to keep things light. Women love funny men - make her laugh and she’s yours.   Speed dating questions Speed dating is great fun, but what do you ask your dates? With only 3-5 minutes per date, it’s important to use your time wisely and find out what you have in common. Trust our years of experience in the speed dating game and have a peek at our guide below for bad and good speed dating questions to ask your dates. Never come with a scripted set of speed dating questions, but feel free to memorise a few in case conversation dries up. Remember to talk as much as you listen and ensure the conversation is balanced. Don’t talk about yourself too much! First impressions count, so look the part as well as talking the part. The best speed dating questions in the world won’t save you if you wear tracksuit pants speed dating. Dating Advice Good Speed Dating Questions and Topics The best topics to talk about are those which are leading – give your dates a chance to open up rather than give a yes/no response. Find out what interests you share and keep it light. We don’t want to get too serious for an introduction date, so banter and humour are a must.   SpeedDater’s Top 40 Speed Dating Questions Background speed dating questions Where did you grow up? Got any brothers and sisters? Got any pets? Are you a morning or night person? What’s your favourite season of the year? How would your best mate describe you? Speed dating questions about travel Where was the last place you travelled to? Do you prefer city breaks, active breaks or sunshine and beaches? Where is the next place you plan to visit? Do you like Belgium breaks or would you rather go abroad? Speed dating questions about your date’s interests What do you like doing when you aren’t at work? What are you most passionate about? Do you like being active or prefer quality time on the sofa? What do you like doing on a Sunday? Made plans for this weekend? Speed dating questions about your date’s aspirations What did you want to be when you were younger? What do you look for in a relationship? If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be Speed dating questions to ask your date about music/movies/TV What was the last gig you went to? What kind of music are you into? If you could see anyone perform live who would it be? Seen any good films lately? What sort of film genre is your favourite? What are your favourite films? Got any weird celebrities crushes? Do people tell you that you look like someone famous? Watching any good TV series at the moment? Read any good books lately? Food/drink speed dating questions What’s your favourite tipple? What would your 'last meal' be? Do you like to cook? If yes what's your 'signature dish'? If you could only eat one style of food for the rest of your life what would it be? (Italian/Thai etc) What’s your favourite sandwich filling? What’s a good restaurant you’ve been to in the last month? Are you are starter and main or main and desert person? Random speed dating questions What 3 items could you never live without? Have you got any unusual party tricks? What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done? Would you rather x or y?   Dating Advice Speed Dating Questions and Topics to Avoid Work It’s ok to get the basics but don’t waste your precious 4 minutes talking non-stop about work. Exes If you’re talking about your ex it means there are still unresolved feelings there. Religion/politics Too intense for first time you meet someone, save it for later. Money No one likes when people brag about money. Also don’t ever ask how much someone earns, it’s none of your business! Cricket Do I need to explain this one? Cricket is dull. Marriage/kids It’s important to know you are on the same page, but discussing it in the first 4 minutes is a bit much. Keep things lighter.   Anyone can talk for a few minutes, honestly. If you haven’t been before, the fear of the unknown is what makes people nervous. Will I be the only one there? Will everyone be weird? Will it be hard to make conversation? No, no, and no. A few dates in you will see how friendly people are and how easy a 4 minute conversation is. Every event I host has guests say it’s much easier/more fun than they thought it would be and they wonder what they were worried about. These topics are also great to use as first date questions. Relax, smile and have fun speed daters!   I hope you’ve enjoyed my dating tips and I hope to meet you at a speed dating singles night, singles activity dating event or lock and key party soon. Happy dating – enjoy yourself Speedaters!
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What Is Speed Dating and How Does It Work?

Speed dating is the most popular type of singles event! Speed dating is the perfect way to meet lots of new people in just one night. The format involves a series of 3-4 minute dates with up to 20 single professionals. We recommend coming with an open mind and a smile! Busy lives result in the need for affordable, fun, safe and time savvy ways to meet like-minded people. SpeedDater launched way back in 2002 and is the leader in the UK singles events market. What Is Speed Dating and How Does It Work?SpeedDater launched in 2002, leading the UK singles events market. The aim of SpeedDater Events is to provide singles with an opportunity to meet a room full of new people in just one night. So what is a speed dating event? The format is as follows; the guests will have 4-5 minute dates with up to 12 other single men and women. There will be a host at the event who will sign you in and badge you, they will also explain how the evening will run if you’re new and unsure. Your badge will match one of the tables in the room and usually apart from Gay, Lesbian and activity events, the men will rotate and the women will stay seated. How Does Speed Dating Work?What is speed dating and how does it work? You may still be wondering...You will be given a score card which is how you log your dates in the evening, and then after the event, simply log in with your username and password and log who you liked. Once you have entered this, you will be able to see if anyone has matched you. It is FREE to send messages to your matches. However, if you didn’t match or like anyone from the event, you can request another free event! Now that doesn’t sound too bad does it?! We hope that our definition of speed dating matches what you think, and will encourage you to get booking onto our events! You may be thinking, well who actually goes speed dating? Well any single person who is interested in meeting new people and potentially finding someone. You need to come with an open mind, you never know who you could meet at one of our speed dating events. Everyone is at the speed dating event for the same reason; to meet new people, expand their social circle and potentially meet someone special. SpeedDater provides a relaxed environment where everyone can meet everyone and you won’t have to feel like you’re the only single person there… because everyone will be single! Worried you won’t be able to attend an event because you don’t live in London? Well...SpeedDater doesn’t just operate in London, we have events for singles all over the UK, in cities which are becoming very popular; Newcastle, Bristol, Manchester, Brighton and in twenty two other cities to be exact. So no need to worry, you will not be missing out if you live in any of these cities as there will be a chance to meet like minded singles just down the road! We also make sure that we cater to all ages, offering events for different age ranges, including 24-38, 36-55 and 55-67. Here at SpeedDater, we also accomodate to those people who prefer to step out of the box and into a more niche style of event. We run singles parties, speed duetting, wine tasting, elite events and many more. Perhaps you want to try something new or you want to meet someone in a more active way, our activity events and parties can provide you with that. There really is something to suit everyone at SpeedDater events. So hopefully you won’t be wondering ‘how does speed dating work?’ anymore. Our speed dating events are held in a variety of stylish bars across the UK and we are often complimented on our choice of venue, especially our London party locations. We always have exclusive use of a private section of the venue, so you are able to mingle peacefully! Sometimes, people feel nervous to attend a speed dating event because it is face to face instead of through an app. However, we believe that speed dating is way more successful than meeting someone on a dating app with over 80% of our guests getting at least one match at each event. Here are some other reasons that speed dating is more beneficial than dating online: - Internet dating can become very overwhelming and many people who you may actually like in person can be discounted because of overly pickiness. - You HAVE to speak to everyone at speed dating events which is not the case on apps. You can pick and choose who you talk to even if you match them. And most importantly!: - Meeting people face to face can spark instant chemistry and connection that you can’t really find just from someone’s photo!  Surely after our very clear speed dating definition, you will be feeling like meeting new people and having a night with us at SpeedDater. How to Choose a Speed Dating Event? SpeedDater has a variety of events including regular speed dating, parties, wine tasting, speed duetting and many more. We understand that choosing what event to go to is a difficult decision, but here are some tips that may make the decision a little bit easier: 1. Before anything, think about your preferences for meeting someone and the kind of event you could see this happening at. For example, a lot of people like our parties because it creates a normal night out atmosphere...however everyone in the room is in the same boat and looking for that special someone. 2. Research! Check out our website for our different styles of events and read the description carefully so you know exactly what each event is about. This will definitely help you when deciding. 3. Think outside the box, try something new… maybe just push yourself and go wine tasting or speed duetting, even if you’ve never done it before. Even though you may be nervous, the fact that you have decided to do something you’ve perhaps never done before will look great and you’ll be feeling great afterwards! 4. It may become your new hobby...if you decide to choose an activity event, you may enjoy it so much that you want to book again! You would learn so much about how speed dating events work if you try it all out! At the speed dating eventWhen you arrive, our lovely host will welcome you and sign you in. Your badge will match a table in the room and usually the ladies stay seated while the men rotate about every 3-4 mins. You will have a card to mark down if you are interested in the people you meet. Think of the dates as mini introductions. It’s the perfect amount of time to leave you wanting more, or if you’re not hitting it off then onto the next! There’s plenty of opportunity to sip drinks, chat and flirt the night away. After the speed dating event Simply log in with your username and password and click the 'matches' tab. Once you have entered your ticks you will see if you match with anyone. Remember it's FREE to send/read messages to/from all the guests you have met at the event through our secure website. All our events are guaranteed! If you don't meet at least one person you'd like to see again your next event is FREE! What have you got to lose? Who goes speed dating?Single and fabulous people just like you. Our database is brimming with “busy professionals” and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by who you meet. Remember that everyone is there for the same reason – to meet new people, expand their social circles and maybe even meet someone special. Many people find themselves in the situation where lots of their friends are already hooked up, their workplace isn’t an ideal dating environment, and they aren’t interested in drunken fumblings in clubs. Speed dating offers the perfect relaxed and pressure free solution for how to meet new people who are on the same page. We run events for all ages, plus a variety of niche events like graduate professionals, international, elite, wine tasting, walks and more. There really is something to suit everyone. Where are dating events held?SpeedDater chooses popular and stylish bars with central locations. We are often complimented on our choice of venues – being the largest singles company we get the first choice on the best bars. We always have exclusive use of private rooms so you can flirt in privacy.